How soon is too soon?

So ex and I split up/separated/non-divorced---what word works?--- almost 9 months ago. We still live together with the kids, but that will change this summer. She is already kinda dating someone and I'm kinda OK with it.

My problem seems to be me. After 15+ years together, is 9 months too soon? It feels like it in some ways. But at the same time, our break up came over several years, so it's not like it was a shock or someone pulled the rug out from under the other one.

Perhaps I just have too much on my plate and this is my "grown up brain" telling me to focus on what I need to be doing. Of course another part of me is saying "see that woman over there? Yum." And of course that particular woman is not interested and has WAY more self control than I do. In fact, I think that we could be really good friends if the "yum" side of my brain would just calm down. Then we end up hanging out, she has just enough beer and starts saying things that put the "yum" side in high gear and again has WAY more self control than I do...sigh.

I'm trying to use the opportunity to work on my patience.